We often talk about getting healthy, however, one subject we tend to avoid is sexual health. Why is sex so taboo to talk about?
I grew up in a very conservative family and talking about anything sexual or even mentioning your body parts by their actual name did not happen. It took me years just to say the word Vagina without looking around to see who was shunning me… seriously.
Your vagina was referred to as a mossy (I have no idea. It was apparently something my great-grandmother decided to call it), and a penis was referred to as a wee-wee or ding-dong.
I know, I know. I laugh when I think back at how foolish it sounded. Even when my son first started talking about his penis, we didn’t call it that. His cousin had called his a tocky. (No idea on that one either.) However, recently I decided enough was enough.
I have a Vagina. You hear that people… a VAGINA! Ah, so exhilarating to just get that out there. lol.
I told myself that I would no longer call anyone’s body parts by the silly pet names people so often use. I told my son (who is 5) that his tocky was actually called a penis. He laughed and said “A PENIS” with a really hard emphasis on the ‘p’. It was hilarious to watch him grasp at the fact that his beloved tocky was called a penis. However, he eventually shrugged his shoulders and went on about his life.
It was so simple for him, so why can’t it be that simple for adults? Why can’t we just call body parts what they are?
Aside from calling the human anatomy what it actually is, talking about sex is something that will make people around me blush and hurry away… well, most people anyway. I tried to think of ways that I could change that. However, when I tried to bring up sex or anything sexy, everyone seemed to wander away from me.
One day I attended a Pure Romance party. It was so much fun! I even signed up to sell for a while. People listened to what I had to say and were much more open than you would normally find them. I found that people were more comfortable when it seemed like a ‘safe place’ to express themselves. They opened up about their issues and needs with little hesitation.
Seriously though, some people have problems getting aroused, and that’s ok… and perfectly normal. What isn’t normal is for those people to feel like they are doing something wrong or that there is something wrong with them. There can be any number of things going on in the body to make you not want to get it on: hormones, diet, stress, medications, a woman’s regular cycle… just to name a few.
I went through this when I was taking prescription meds. First it was the birth control. My gynecologist told me that a woman is only ‘in the mood’ prior to her period, that women are programmed to only need sex for procreation.
That is complete and utter crap. Sure, I’ve noticed that I want it MORE right before my period, but that doesn’t mean I don’t, or shouldn’t, want it at other times throughout the month.
Sex is a good thing. People should feel comfortable playing with toys and experimenting. Women should feel just as comfortable as most men do talking about masturbating. There is nothing wrong with it. It’s actually good for you!
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Until next time… Stay Frosty!